You would think that if one were trying to convey that homosexuality is the ‘new normal’, you’d use words like ‘integration’ or ‘acceptance’ or ‘connection’ when thinking about a name for an annual parade – but, no, the gay community uses the word PRIDE.
The active gay community and the media that propogates their declarations would have us believe, especially in the last decade or so, that they are all ‘born this way’ (thank you, Lady Gaga), so where exactly does pride fit in? If you truly didn’t have a choice in the matter as to what you are or aren’t, how can you be proud? Isn’t one proud when one has had a hand in creating something? “Oh Billy, your Lego fort looks lovely, you must be very proud!” If one is born with webbed toes, they can’t exactly say they’re ‘proud of it’ as if they had a hand in their skin’s odd formation, but they could say, “I have accepted my quirky webbed toes as being part of me”.
So which is it? Are you, as a gay man or woman ‘born that way’ or did you have a hand in the creation you have become? If you were born that way, why boast?
I once sat down with an openly gay co-worker (this was back in the 80’s) and had a frank discussion with him about himself, his sexual orientation and about the gays he was friends with. I asked him, “how many of the guys you’re friends with are gay because they experienced male-to-male sexual experimentation when they were young and/or very poor father-son relationships (if at all)?” His answer? “All of them!” This was in Toronto when the gay community was on the cusp of its big ‘outing’.
Did something change between then and now? My guess is ‘not likely’, except maybe for one thing: the growing media inundation with respect to the whole ‘gay is okay’ agenda via images, homo-erotic relationships portrayed on screen (including kids as young as fourteen) and forced education in the schools. (Not many people are aware that just over 40 years ago, homosexuality was considered sexually deviant and/or aberrant behavior in the definitive publication of psychiatric conditions, the DSM-II *.)
I have a close, homosexual friend who does not like being identified with the gay community because of the shenanigans that go on (like lewd, open sexual behaviour that would most likely have any heterosexual arrested for public indecency) and because he feels one’s sexuality is private. At one time, I believe he thought of himself as straight. But because he suffered terrible abuse at the hands of three different priests (God help them at judgment!), he was most likely swayed into his sexual orientation because of the kind of abuse he endured; as is the case with many who’ve suffered such assaults. Yet here’s the thing: he cannot identify with ‘gays’ because he thinks the ‘Pride Parade’ approach and other overt, public manifestations within the framework of society – forgive the play on words – is out-and-out wrong. Disrespectful, even. He deems his sexuality as a private issue – I respect his thoughts here. After all, MY sexual inclinations are not something I plan on building a parade around. It’s personal what goes on in the bedroom, no? But, of course, if I and the hetero community at large planned to openly parade to celebrate traditional marriage, heterosexuality if you will, would we be regarded as intolerant homophobes and shut down? I wonder if such an event were to occur, would the liberal media go so far as to label our parade a form of hate crime and our placards and banners hate speech?
In stark contrast to homosexuals, heterosexuals don’t feel the need put their sexuality ‘on parade’. Sure, there’s raucous, inappropriate sexual imagery foisted upon us repeatedly on TV and in film, but such does not close down a large metropolitan city’s main street for the day. Opposite-gender relationships are generally not defined by sexuality on the surface. It would appear this is NOT the case for the active gay community. Case in point: Maybe you’ve watched one or two episodes of the near-dozen talent competition shows on television. Invariably, in almost every competition, some guy or gal introduces themselves thusly: “Hi, I’m ___ and I’m gay and I just came out to my parents a week ago,” or something along these lines. How conflicted must you be to present your raison d’etre as being that of your sexual proclivity OVER your voice or other talent on a show meant to judge such talents?!
Just once, I’d love to see some contestant on national TV lean over and say into the mic: “Hi my name is _____ and I’m straight. I’ve just come out to my two dads in the last few weeks.” Wouldn’t that be just mind-blowing?
Again, for a group of individuals trying to identify themselves as a new normal, they’re doing it in a strange way. If gay really is a new normal, why toot your horn so loudly? In this era of ‘gay is okay’ and marriage equality, what’s the deal with all the shouting about your sexuality? Keep it to yourself and have some self-respect. Heterosexuals generally choose to identify themselves via their minds, their talents, their gifts and abilities, their sexual proclivity not coming into play with such in-your-face declarations.
I well-realize that pride, in the context of the many gay parades held worldwide, may once have had more to do with the once-closeted homosexual no longer needing to feel ashamed of their sexual nature; that their taking the leap of making a public declaration about their true identity merited the applause of those who would deem such an ‘outing’ as brave (and that such bravery was something to be proud of). But the truth is the Pride Parade is not about that anymore. In the here and now, the Pride Parade is all about, “Hey – this is who we are! We’re in your town and here to make some noise – like it or lump it, b!#ches!”
Since that disposition now appears to be the more dominant reason to dress like your sexual opposite and sashay (or openly fornicate) in the streets, then it seems to me that gay pride is based on the fact that, well … you’re gay.
My wife claims that I am a natural musician and blessed with a far better than average singing voice. My parents never spent a penny on lessons for me so, yes, I guess I was ‘born this way’. I know lots of other natural-born talented people and the last thing they do is flagrantly boast about it …
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